While they’re staying out of one spotlight, they’re usually creating a fake persona and gathering a new following or new victim. It’s a form of lying low because they feel like their mask is about to fall off. They won’t just stop talking to you, they will stop talking and posting on social media too. And so this can cause the narcissist to use the silent treatment to disappear. No amount of narcissistic rage can cover up the truth when you’ve finally come to the real conclusion. When you start to see the narcissist for who they are, they will panic. I have fallen for it many times before when I was younger.
How ridiculous does that sound? Well, many of us fall for it every day. It’s going to be a while before I can forgive you for catching me.” “How dare you figure out what I’ve been doing. What’s hiding behind this form of the silent treatment is the narcissist’s punishment. After that, if you’re still able to use common sense, they will ignore you – Insert the silent treatment. How do they do this? Well, they first may tell you that it’s your fault for catching them, and then they act wounded. So, the first thing they do is maneuver the situation to where you are the guilty party instead of them. Well, because the goal for them is to always look innocent, and they cannot possibly be innocent when they’ve been caught. If you’ve ever caught the narcissist cheating or something else wrongful in your relationship, then they will use the silent treatment in this situation. And while you’re feeling this way, the narcissist is waiting for the ultimate sign that they are back in control. You want the relationship to go back to normal.
Unknowing victims of the narcissist may ask if there’s anything they can do to make the silence stop. Silence, to those who aren’t familiar with this tactic of the narcissist, could be a cry for help. This is how the narcissist feels, and so to gain back control and feel secure again, they go silent. You see, sometimes what’s hidden behind the silence is the feeling of losing control and being insecure. What they want from this whole ordeal is to have ultimate control. When a narcissist goes quiet, it’s not just a simple matter to them. You know when you’re being mistreated in this manner, and yet, the narcissist will try to convince you that you’re imagining the whole thing, thus gaslighting. It means not looking at them, short texting them, and simply answering with little emotion. In case you’re not aware of the term ‘stonewalling’, it means to ignore someone, even someone you live with. Meanwhile, their actions will speak differently. Then, they will say that the worries are all in your mind. Although you can tell that they are ignoring you, they will still say that everything is okay. When someone with a narcissistic personality disorder starts stonewalling, they are attempting to gaslight you. Here are a few intricate things that hide behind that toxic silence. They are basically just existing to stay in control. With this silence, they’ve become the center of your life, as they are withholding speech and attention. The silent treatment takes something from you and gives it to the narcissist – the spotlight. What’s hidden behind the narcissist’s silence? However, there’s an even deeper meaning beneath this silence.